Useful help for the moment you’re actually in.
No games, false promises or magic day counts. These guides help you protect your boundary, get through the hard moments and decide what supports you next.
Starting no contact
What Is the No Contact Rule?
The no contact rule is a boundary you set yourself: no direct or indirect contact with an ex for a chosen period. Definition, what counts, and common myths.
Read guide →How Long Should No Contact Last?
How long should no contact last? No set number fits everyone. See what 30, 60 and 90 day checkpoints can and can’t tell you, and the signs you need more time.
Read guide →The First 30 Days of No Contact, Day by Day
The first 30 days of no contact, day by day: a day-1 checklist, what week 1 feels like, how each stretch changes and a day-30 review to decide what next.
Read guide →Should I Block My Ex? Block, Mute, Restrict, Unfollow or Archive Compared
Should I block my ex? Block vs mute vs restrict vs unfollow vs archive, what each does on iPhone and social apps, how to choose, and when blocking is not safe.
Read guide →Does No Contact Work?
Does no contact work? It can help you recover, but it won’t reliably make an ex miss you or come back. What the research shows and how to judge it.
Read guide →Best No Contact Apps in 2026: 7 Compared Honestly
Compare 7 no contact apps with App Store data checked 15 October 2026: price model, ratings, platforms, privacy and who each suits. We make UnLink, one of them.
Read guide →No Contact During the Holidays: A Plan for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year
No contact during the holidays is harder, not different. A date-by-date plan for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year, with scripts and a message check.
Read guide →My Ex Moved On Like I Was Nothing: What a Fast Move-On Does and Doesn’t Mean
My ex moved on like I was nothing: why a fast move-on hurts, what it can and can’t mean, what research says about rebounds, and a 7-day plan to stop checking.
Read guide →Handling urges
How to Stop Texting Your Ex
How to stop texting your ex: a 90-second urge protocol, if-then rules, copy-and-paste scripts, iPhone friction and a 7-day plan for the 11 p.m. moment.
Read guide →How to Block Yourself From Texting Someone on iPhone and Android
How to block yourself from texting someone: the iPhone Screen Time limit that works, what Apple says it covers, the Android options, and a friend as backup.
Read guide →How to Stop Texting Someone, Even When You Really Want To
How to stop texting someone, including how to stop texting someone so much: an if-then plan, a before-you-send check, scripts and what to do when they go quiet.
Read guide →What Should You Do Instead of Texting Your Ex?
What to do instead of texting your ex: 40+ ideas matched to what you feel (lonely, angry, awake at 1 a.m., wanting closure), plus a plan for the first minute.
Read guide →Why Do I Want to Text My Ex at Night?
Why you want to text your ex at night, how tiredness, loneliness and drinking weaken the pause, and a plan for drunk texting and the morning after.
Read guide →How to Stop Checking Your Ex’s Social Media
How to stop checking your ex’s social media: a five-step friction ladder, in-the-moment scripts, and what to do when your ex views your stories.
Read guide →After a slip
Recovery
The Stages of No Contact: Common Patterns, Not a Fixed Timeline
The stages of no contact people describe, from urgency and bargaining to steadying and rebuilding, with a stages table and an honest no contact timeline.
Read guide →How Do You Write an Unsent Letter to Your Ex?
How to write an unsent letter to your ex: a two-draft method, 12 prompts, a sample, what to do with it, and when writing makes things worse instead of better.
Read guide →How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex
Can’t stop thinking about your ex? Why the loop runs, why forcing it away backfires, and what helps: a worry window, urge surfing and a reality check.
Read guide →How to Get Over a Breakup: A Recovery Plan That Actually Helps
How to get over a breakup, step by step: what to do in the first 72 hours, a 12-week recovery plan, what research says helps, and when to get support.
Read guide →How Long Does It Take to Get Over a Breakup?
How long it takes to get over a breakup, what research says about recovery time, why the “half the relationship” rule is a myth, and what speeds it up.
Read guide →Why Do I Miss My Ex? What the Missing Is Really Made Of
Why do I miss my ex? Five things hide inside the missing, plus a test for each, a lonely-or-them check, and what to do on a bad night. No ex-mind-reading.
Read guide →Limerence vs Love: How to Tell the Difference After a Breakup
Limerence vs love: what Tennov’s 1979 term means, eight differences in one table, why uncertainty fuels it, a three-question check, and what to do next.
Read guide →What to Do After a Breakup: A 14-Day Checklist
What to do after a breakup, day by day for two weeks: four short checklists, a table for shared belongings, three messages to send, and when to get support.
Read guide →How to Stop Loving Someone (and What Actually Fades)
How to stop loving someone you still love: what fades attachment, what keeps it alive, a six-step plan, and an honest answer on how long it takes.
Read guide →Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Ex?
Why do I keep dreaming about my ex? Dreams like this are common after a breakup. What the research supports, what it does not, and what to do the morning after.
Read guide →What Is Closure in a Relationship? How to Find It Without Them
What is closure in a relationship, and can you get it without your ex? What you can build alone, what depends on them, and when asking is unsafe.
Read guide →Self-Care After a Breakup: A Realistic Daily Plan
Self care after a breakup that works on bad days: a five-item minimum day, a four-week ladder, sleep and food basics, scripts for friends, and when to get help.
Read guide →How to Get Over Someone You Never Dated
How to get over someone you never dated: why it hurts, a facts-vs-fantasy table, a fantasy inventory, a one-month stop list and scripts for friends.
Read guide →Can’t Sleep After a Breakup? A Night Plan for Tonight
Can’t sleep after a breakup? Use this three-phase night plan: the last hour, the first 20 minutes awake and a 3 a.m. reset, plus when insomnia needs a doctor.
Read guide →Grieving a Breakup: What Grief Looks Like When They Are Still Alive
Grieving a breakup is normal even when your ex is alive. See why the five stages do not apply, what you actually lost, why grief comes in waves, and what helps.
Read guide →Anxiety After a Breakup: A Calm-Down Plan and When to Get Help
Anxiety after a breakup is common. Use a three-step calm-down for the moment it spikes, learn panic vs worry, and see when to talk to a doctor.
Read guide →Depression After a Breakup: Normal Grief or Something More?
Depression after a breakup: how to tell ordinary grief from depression, the signs to take to a doctor, what to do this week, and crisis lines if you are at risk.
Read guide →Loneliness After a Breakup: How to Rebuild Your Time
Loneliness after a breakup eases when the empty hours have a plan. Map the evenings and weekends your ex filled, then use scripts to reach out this week.
Read guide →How to Get Over a Long-Term Relationship: Rebuild Your Life, Not Just Your Heart
How to get over a long-term relationship: a six-week plan for accounts, belongings and friends, an inventory of what you lost, and prompts for who you are now.
Read guide →Valentine’s Day After a Breakup: A Plan for the Day and the Weeks Around It
Valentine’s Day after a breakup: an hour-by-hour plan with a fallback for the urge, social media rules, scripts for friends, and a check before you text.
Read guide →Physical Symptoms of Heartbreak: What Is Normal and When to Get Help
Physical symptoms of heartbreak, from sleep and appetite changes to chest tightness: what is normal, what needs emergency care, and what to tell a doctor.
Read guide →How to Know You’re Over Your Ex: 10 Signs (and What If You’re Not Yet)
How to know you’re over your ex: ten signs grouped by thoughts, feelings, behavior and future, what neutral means, and what to do if you’re not there yet.
Read guide →Special situations
My Ex Texted Me During No Contact: Should I Respond?
Your ex texted during no contact. Sort the message by type, see when to reply, when to stay silent, how long to wait, and word-for-word scripts for each.
Read guide →What Is Modified No Contact? Rules for Co-Parenting and Work
Modified no contact limits talk to practical topics, one channel and set reply windows. Rules, scripts and a message test for co-parenting, work, shared homes.
Read guide →Do You Need No Contact After a Situationship? A Practical Plan
Wondering if you need no contact after a situationship? See why it hurts, whether to send a closing message, scripts for ghosting and “let’s stay friends”.
Read guide →The Grey Rock Method: How It Works, Examples and When Not to Use It
The grey rock method means giving brief, flat, unemotional replies to someone who feeds on reactions. How to do it, real examples, and when it is unsafe.
Read guide →No Contact With a Narcissist: Safety First, Then a Plan
No contact with a narcissist: check your safety first, then decide between full and modified no contact, expect hoovering, and keep records. No diagnosing.
Read guide →Going No Contact With a Parent: Options, Safety and Support
Going no contact with parents is a big decision. See the options between full contact and none, how to stay safe, what to say at holidays, and where to get help.
Read guide →How to Get Over a Friendship Breakup (and Whether No Contact Applies)
How to get over a friendship breakup: why it hurts, whether no contact applies to friends, scripts for mutual friends, and a plan for the first month.
Read guide →Why Do I Miss My Abusive Ex? Trauma Bonds, Safety and What to Do Next
Why do I miss my abusive ex? Missing them is common and not your fault. Learn how trauma bonds form, why leaving can raise risk, and how to plan for safety.
Read guide →Anxious Attachment After a Breakup: Why the Stages Feel So Intense
Anxious attachment breakup stages explained as patterns, not a diagnosis: why you reach out, what it costs, an urge-peak script and a six-week example.
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